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  4 0 Never make requests. You'll miss out on the best things about receiving them: 1. It gives you a lot of information about what that person actually thinks of you. Receiving a candle/bath set is a very different message than a homemade bowl made out of army men. 2. If it's a good gift, it's something that you'll love, but would have never thought to ask for. That's rad. 3. If it's good, it'll show on your face, thus making the giver feel really proud and happy with themselves. A good surprise gift can bring people closer. Annie answered in Whatever over 2 years ago | Report 2 comments by amazonfemme and Commenty Colin… 0 0 Agree! Agree! Agree! amazonfemme commented over 2 years ago | Report 0 0 Agree x4! Commenty Colin commented over 2 years ago | Report Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  2 0 I do think it's rude. If you help choose the gift, then it's no longer THEM giving you something, it's YOU and THEM giving you something. I understand where you're coming from, and I've told people what I like in the past, but I've gotten more conscious about it as I've gotten older. I actually don't even like getting gifts any more. When I'm asked what I would like, I say that a card to know they're thinking about me is all I want. It's about relationships, not material things. And if I want something, I pick it out myself if I can afford it. If someone is determined to buy you something, though, one shouldn't "save a lot of hassle." Them going through the hassle is them showing you that they care, which is what gifts are supposed to be about anyway. Others probably feel differently and I'm fine with that.. this is just my take. PDXwahine answered in Whatever over 2 years ago | Report Comment on this answer Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  1 0 The hell with all that. There are times when, as a gift giver, I want my gift to be a magical and unexpected experience, like a surprise party thrown by a unicorn. On the other hand, there are plenty of times I just want to give someone something they might actually want. I say make it clear if there's something you'd particularly appreciate, and they can decide if they want to take the pragmatic road or get all "creative class" on the situation. atomic answered in Whatever over 2 years ago | Report Comment on this answer Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  0 0 Yes, it is rude. The hassle-free transfer of a good or service from point A to point B is not the point of gift-giving. It is first and foremost an expression of affection - the actual item being transferred is secondary. If you're really going to avoid all hassle, just ask them to give you what you consider to be the appropriate amount of money you are "due," right? That's pure efficiency. They could wire it to your preferred account for maximum ease. Commenty Colin answered in Whatever over 2 years ago | Report 3 comments by Commenty Colin, pork chop, and Commenty Colin… 0 0 Ok, I'll add that the rules are different for close family (the stuff above is only for friends/acquaintances), and I'll admit that my family has amazon wish lists to facilitate the holiday gift-giving. Like Steve, when I am asked (and I consider the Amazon arrangement my family has to be "mutual asking"), I do try and give a range of cost in my suggestions. Commenty Colin commented over 2 years ago | Report 0 0 Hey CC, have you always been on the Merc staff? pork chop commented over 2 years ago | Report 0 0 I'm not on their staff. I just like badges. Commenty Colin commented over 2 years ago | Report Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  0 0 Ask away! Depends on who it is, but I like to give suggestions for gifts, which actually takes the pressure off the giver. But I usually suggest three things spanning a price range from low to high, so they don't go bankrupt in the process. Speaking of which, this is what I currently want for gifts: All the available Darkhorse Buffy compilations. A creative-looking bike bell/horn. A Flip video camera. A subscription to Atomic Ranch magazine. A delicious sandwich. Wm. Steven Humphrey answered in Whatever over 2 years ago | Report 1 comment by Commenty Colin… 0 0 Flip video is the shiiiiiiiit, and we actually got ours for free. Commenty Colin commented over 2 years ago | Report Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  0 0 If it's xmas and it's your family. Tell them -and don't forget to be detailed! Personally, I'd get more satisfaction know the gift I was giving someone would be used and appreciated. I've received plenty of unwanted but well intentioned crap in my life and it seems a waste. Beer Batter answered in Whatever over 2 years ago | Report Comment on this answer Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  0 0 My Aunt Connie gave me a stolen handgun with blood on it for Christmas. She told me to "get rid of it". krusty answered in Whatever over 2 years ago | Report Comment on this answer Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  0 0 If they have gotten you lame presents in the past, you for sure give them some hints on what would be a better present. Rusty! answered in Whatever over 2 years ago | Report Comment on this answer Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  0 0 I think it's fine, as long as they're someone close to you. I wouldn't tell my friends what I want for my birthday, but my parents or boyfriend? Eh, go for it. Especially if you want something that's not monetary, like your boyfriend to make you dinner or fix your bike (that was my bday gift), and you're afraid they'll spend money on something you don't want instead. s.mirk answered in Whatever over 2 years ago | Report Comment on this answer Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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