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  8 0 Mostly because I hate the word "fiancé". pork chop answered in Whatever over 2 years ago | Report 2 comments by neutrasweet and Commenty Colin… 0 0 i despise finished diamonds. neutrasweet commented over 2 years ago | Report 0 0 All of the wedding-related terminology is gross. "Fiance?" "Honeymoon?," "Engagement?" "Bride?," "Showers?" Barf. However, it's possible to do the whole thing while largely avoiding the terminology, and it's definitely possible to do it without diamond rings, which in my view are the cherry on top of the dogpile scam that is the entire wedding-industrial complex. It helps greatly if your partner is on board, of course. Commenty Colin commented over 2 years ago | Report Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  8 1 If I accomplish nothing else before I die, I would like to (legally) marry the love of my life, my partner of 12 years. But, unfortunately, my marriage would undermine traditional marriages and teach children that perversion is socially acceptable. I am not getting married because the government will not give me a marriage license. spartacus answered in Whatever over 2 years ago | Report Comment on this answer Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  6 1 I don't think it's relevant to the nature of relationships. A marriage (in the traditional sense where divorce is considered a last resort, anyway) is basically a promise to stay with one person for the rest of your life. Problem is, people always change, and in ways that can never be foreseen. Therefore, you have no way of knowing whether the person you want to marry now will still be the person you want to be with five, ten, or twenty years from now. Personally, I don't like to make promises if I don't know I'll be able to keep them (or if they'll be worth keeping). Of course, my girlfriend hopes I change my mind someday. KS answered in Whatever over 2 years ago | Report 2 comments by Commenty Colin and Fatale… 0 0 I'm in my late 20's. I've always had the feeling that at my age and beyond, it isn't that people change so much as they age, rather it's that their significant other's ability to deal with that lack of change wanes, and that's what causes breakups. In other words, the significant other's reserve of love for the person gradually erodes as they slowly realize that "charming quirks" of young love become "flaws" over time, and that those flaws aren't going to change, and they just get more and more intolerable. Does anyone with any more life experience care to comment on this? As someone getting married very, very soon, I'm more than a little interested in your perspective. Commenty Colin commented over 2 years ago | Report 0 0 I agree with you totally Colin. I got married in my early 20s. I fell in love with his care free attitude, his willingness to not do anything he didn't want to do, and his passion. Now I am stuck being the only one bringing home the bacon for the last 8 years, his fast temper, and his "f@ck the system" mentality. I thought it would make me more carefree to be with him, but after so many years I am even more responsible than I was before. Good luck in your marriage. Seriously, good luck. Fatale commented over 2 years ago | Report Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  6 1 I think it's more romantic to spend my life with someone because I want to, instead of the fact that we have a government contract. Kyle! answered in Whatever over 2 years ago | Report 1 comment by Kyle!… 0 0 Not that I have anything against the two people who find government contracts romantic. Kyle! commented over 2 years ago | Report Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  5 0 Impossible! Voltaire is dead and Megan Fox is just too darn expensive... G) All of the above. amazonfemme answered in Whatever over 2 years ago | Report Comment on this answer Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  3 0 Because so far I have failed to convince any girls of the many tax, citizenship, and college financial aid advantages. Dragon_Slave answered in Whatever over 2 years ago | Report Comment on this answer Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  4 1 There is no hurry. I like my dude. We'll get around to it some day, probably. Joneser answered in Whatever over 2 years ago | Report Comment on this answer Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  3 0 Socially inept. Reymont answered in Whatever over 2 years ago | Report Comment on this answer Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  5 3 I think I would make a really shitty wife. I hate doing the dishes. meandyou answered in Whatever over 2 years ago | Report 1 comment by freikja… 0 0 Wow, three downvotes for what l'm guessing is a tongue-in-cheek response. Touchy, touchy! freikja commented over 2 years ago | Report Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  1 0 Mostly socially inept/spends too much time on the internet. Also broke. Also no partner. Also mad about same-sex marriage being illegal. Also can't imagine being married. Also would have to leave home. Plus other stuff. Kristin Bell answered in Whatever over 2 years ago | Report 1 comment by neutrasweet… 0 0 yeah, i'd need a panel of psychiatrists to decipher the subtle pathologies within my other stuff. neutrasweet commented over 2 years ago | Report Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  1 0 Marriage = potentially kids, sharing their poor financial habits, and annoying sleep behavior. I prefer being "selfish" and trying to help others; volunteering, serving on political committees/union activities/helping get people elected, coaching kids sports, meals on wheels, working with people who didn't have the greatest upbringing. The one downside, I do like me some sexual lovin'. Hard to accomplish the above and get regular lovin'. Mizzzzzzz answered in Whatever over 2 years ago | Report Comment on this answer Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  1 0 Because Rachel Maddow is taken-- that and the gay thing. nestchick answered in Whatever over 2 years ago | Report Comment on this answer Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  1 0 I'm already married. It is fun. DON'T DO IT! Jebus answered in Whatever over 2 years ago | Report Comment on this answer Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  2 1 Don't really need to be 'recognized in the eyes of God' -or the government- to be happy. l suppose l might if l wanted/needed spousal/dependent rights, but until l have a spouse, and if l have kids, l'm not thinking about it much. That's if l chose to marry a man; if l wanted to marry a woman, it would be prohibited altogether. freikja answered in Whatever over 2 years ago | Report Comment on this answer Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  1 1 Let me be perfectly clear - I love the *idea* of marriage. That you can truly fall in love with someone, see past their faults, grow with them, and find the cojones to make the tough times work to the end, etc., etc... But, I think marriage in it's current iteration is fucked. First of all, why is the government involved in it at all? Secondly, IF the government must be involved in it, why can't there be a test for it. Some sample questions: 21. If your significant other were to undergo a sex change operation, would you stay with them? 22. If your significant other were to be paralyzed in an accident, would you stay with them? Answering "no" or "maybe" to these questions and others? Well then, you obviously don't need to get married. Same goes for people who want to have kids... Faintly Macabre answered in Whatever over 2 years ago | Report Comment on this answer Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  5 7 Marriage is for people who can't sit well in their own skin. They need someone to make them whole, as they see it. Me.. I'm good. I don't need someone else to make myself who I am. I enjoy the company and relationship of another person as much as the next guy but making such a large commitment is a little selfish. Why would you want to limit your partner to one person for their entire life? It's selfish. If someone doesn't like me anymore I'm not going to force them to stay for better or worse because of a religious ceremony... and that's the bottom line, why would a non-religious person want to get married? It makes no sense. It's not logical. markmark answered in Whatever over 2 years ago | Report 3 comments by zombiesai, freikja, and markmark… 0 0 Are you high? or just narrow minded? Successful marriages are between two well adjusted people who love each other. Apparently since everyone has to, then this may or may not be within your range of experience. The only way someone else will love you, is if you can love yourself. No one wants to hang around a self loathing, narcissistic A-hole. I'm an atheist and know the intent of marriage is to bond two people who wish to express their commitment to each other. nothing else. I've been to several weddings where the religious part was an afterthought. Not important at all compared to the celebration. All the other legal, social, and religious stuff is extra baggage each family brings to the party. --finally people stay together for better or worse because usually kids are involved..not because you like to force people to be around you. My parents did not get along, but stayed together until we were ready to leave the house. My young life would have been hugely disrupted if they had decided to split and leave one of the parents with the bag...or split and share the kids like a summer house.--parents who have kids and split are f-ing pussies who can't live up to the awesome responsibility of raising a child, which takes at least TWO ADULTS. zombiesai commented over 2 years ago | Report 0 0 Huh. My parents split up when l was fourteen, and were both so much better off without each other that they became more attentive, giving, and objective parents. l turned out fine, and l'm glad they didn't continue to put each other through hell on my account. What a guilt trip that would've been. l don't think you can really speak for any other parents who go through what is already an incredibly painful process, not to mention what it must be like to know that that is probably the better route for all parties involved, including the children. Sometimes divorce is the best way to help a couple maintain a decent relationship -and family- from there on out. lf you want to rant about the pros and cons of marriage, that's one thing, and l'm sure others here will agree with you. But calling parents who choose a divorce as a best plan of action (over traumatizing their kids by exposing them to a visibly unhappy marriage) pussies is waaaayy off, and certainly a generalization you're not qualified to make. All Mark was saying is that marriage often forces two very unhappy people to stay together based on some traditional vows that don't make that much sense in reality (and the difficulty it takes to sever the relationship). You went nuts and took him so personally that l'm boggled as to how you jumped to the conclusions you did, and then thought it anything short of crazy to treat him as such a hostile contributor. ln fact, his entire post is both valid and wise. Projection much? freikja commented over 2 years ago | Report 0 0 @zombiesai Rofl. I'm too high to retort! hahaha I said retort! tortilla.... I'm gonna make a casadia... or quesodilla.. or tortila and cheese.. man I got the munchies. mmmm cake.You got me pegged man, I am stoned as shit rightnow. That is the reason my opinion sucks.. but yours is awesome. You've changed my mind, I'm gonna go get married and knock the girl up and have kids ... then stay together so I won't be a pussy. Your bullying name calling tricked me. You're so smart. markmark commented over 2 years ago | Report Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  0 2 Never again. I suppose if you are the one who doesnt have the money, and the other one does, it might make financial sense. But dont sign a prenup that cuts you out. All who are bitching because you cant get married should stfu. Be glad. Makes me wish I was gay sometimes. Demondog answered in Whatever over 2 years ago | Report Comment on this answer Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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  3 7 Why buy the cow when you can get the fuck for free? Will Radik answered in Whatever over 2 years ago | Report Comment on this answer Enter your comment or ask a new question preview THIS IS A PREVIEW: Click "Post" to submit it or "Edit" to make changes. edit Please wait… This could take a minute if the tubes are clogged.

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